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It sucks when you speak about something honestly and yet people misinterpret what you are saying.  Tom’s wife does not have a life that I want.  I believe she has the life that she chooses to have, just as each of us chooses our lives.
I want to be doing exactly what I am doing.  In fact I am finally doing what I’ve always wanted to be doing.  I’m in college.  I’m working for a company I respect and I enjoy my job.  I choose daily to do exactly what I am doing.
I do not want to be a housewife.  There’s nothing wrong with that choice…it’s just not for me.  It never was.  Oddly enough my own sister told my first husband prior to us getting married that if that’s the kind of wife he wanted he needed to keep looking.  He didn’t listen.  Not my fault.  He has that wife now who surely cuts up his steak in front of him.  Fuck that…not me.  My husband is my equal not another one of my children.
 
I am not happy being a housewife.  Been there done that….hated everything about that lifestyle except for my son.  But I’m still a mommy….I don’t have to be a housewife to be a Mom.  And my kid thinks I’m a great one and his opinion of the matter is the only opinion that garners my attention.
 
My opinions do not equal my being jealous of someone who is a housewife.  Why would I be jealous?  I don’t want that life. I don’t fully understand women that do.  I admit that’s not a popular statement amongst SAHM’s and housewives.  That’s ok.  I’m sure they’re not jealous of my long day’s at work and even longer day’s of studying.  And that’s fine too.  I love what I am currently doing.  And it’s my life to do what I want. 
 
Damn its my blog and I can talk about what I want.  This does not make me jealous or passive aggressive and I would hope if I ever befriended someone they’d have the guts to say who they are so that we can discuss things openly.  Until then your comments will always be deleted.  Sure someone else may think I’m wrong for how I feel but this is my blog and I feel that I will never ever be happy being a housewife.  Period.  I didn’t like it the first time.  I don’t plan on going there ever again.
 
If you’re a SAHM and a housewife would you like it if someone came along and told you that you were just jealous because you didn’t want to work full time and go to college full time.  I think not.
And to end this….Tom’s wife is a very nice person….doing what she chooses and there’s nothing wrong with that.  Not for her.  For me I’d be in hell.  Period.  If my saying that is somehow bad….fuck it.  I don’t care.  I don’t want that kind of life.  Ever.  And oddly enough she made it pretty clear that she thinks my choices are insane and that’s ok because they are insane to her….not for me.
 
Why does an opposing opinion make someone immediately think something bad?  She’s not bad…I’m not bad.  We’re just different and my speaking to her made me realize fully that I’ll never be happy doing what she does.  I bet she’d be miserable if I told her to go to work 10 hours and spent another 3 writing a paper and then do all your chores in the matter of one day because you have to go back and do it all again for another week.  Thankfully she doesn’t have to….and I don’t have to do what she does.  Life is good….full of choices.  I wouldn’t put myself in her shoes for a million dollars.  Ever.  I already know I’d be flat miserable.  Sitting at home all day with no car….3 kids away at school…and nothing to do but scrub some tile floors.  Fuck that….not for me.  And she never once said, ‘I’m doing this because I love it!!”  She did say
 
1. we can’t afford summer care for 3 kids
2. we can’t afford to both have a car right now
3. celery costs $2.69 and so I didn’t make a salad tonight because I can’t afford celery
 
I wanted to rush to the store and buy her some celery.  And it was precisely then that I realized I never have to think about how bills are getting paid.  I spend too much money on frivolous things….but I do that because I can.  I can because I’ve made choices so that I can.  And besides…if I sat around at home while my son was in school all day that wouldn’t benefit him at all.  And if my son wants celery I’ll buy him ten stalks…..
 Some people perhaps need to befriend other people they can be honest with….open with…..and different from…and still be able to be friends.  Wouldn’t that be cool?
I think it’s equally informative to know that I got a job when my son was about 3 1/2 and it was an opposite shift from his father so that he did not have to go to daycare at all.  If you want to work, contribute cash to the household…there are ways.  Was my way for everyone?  Nope.  It’s just great that there are choices…