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Every single week when I look up my ex-husband on the county’s public records there is something new being reported there.  He cannot seem to stay out of trouble for longer than a few weeks at a time at best.  I check on him because he is the father of my minor child.

Here’s a list of things he is currently dealing with.

1. He wrote a rubber check in the amount of $4,005.53 to the place where he leased office space for his business.   He then went to court and was ordered to pay restitution and court costs.  He then wrote a check for his restitution payment that bounced in June, then in July he made good on that with a payment of $321.00.

2. His house went into foreclosure and the best I can tell via public records is that he did some type of re-org to save it.  It is no longer in foreclosure, but it was.  His mortgage is far too high to be considered affordable.  He no longer has a business he’s running that is profitable so the income level is not the same.  His wife has no career or college degree and therefore her income is not helping much I’m sure.  Last I heard she was a bank teller. (not that bank tellers are bad)  If he got a re-org loan then he has to pay that amount in addition to his new mortgage.

c.            In March of this year Cox Lumber Company won a judgment against him for      $47,105.94.  Probably business related however the judgment is against him        solely because doh…it’s his business.

4. Because he bounced a check for that item up in a. his license was suspended.  Or perhaps it was suspended because of the charge, I’m not sure.  Either way on the 4^th of July this happened…

          This above being….a citation for having no proper tag on his vehicle and         also    for driving without a license. 

          So in other words….he has to pay restitution payments, his mortgage, his        additional re-org payments, and now he has this to pay.  Another $232 by          August          4^th.

         
          TAG-NO/OBSCURED/DEFACED

          07/10/08        $ 91.00 CIVIL PENALTY DUE 080408      

        
          DRIVE/WHILE/LICENSE/SUSPENDED 

          07/10/08        $ 141.00 CIVIL PENALTY DUE 080408     

Things are not going so well for him.  I have mixed feelings about this as always.  Part of me wishes he’d get it together but that’s the same part that knows he will never change and the same part that is thankful that he is no longer my husband.  I can’t wait for my son to be of age.

On the other hand…he deserves everything that happens to him.  

Driving with an Obscured Tag: $91.00

Driving with a Suspended License: $141.00

Your Ex-Wife knowing that you’re F$%^# up again: PRICELESS

All information freely available via public records online at http://pubtitlet.co.pinellas.fl.us/mainmenux.jsp

My son read the below post about Chloe being racist and he sent me a text msg about it.  I responded and told him “Chloe says she’s not black, she’s Afro-American!”  Sometimes the politically correct thing makes me insane.  Terminology means nothing to me..it is how one treats another that matters.  I work with a black man who calls me “dog” every day. I know he means it in a great way. “What up dog?”  Seriously should I call HR because he’s calling me a dog?  People are stupid.  And then right after I left this comment on a great girls blog.

“There is a kennel around the corner from our house.  We walk Chloe by it (across the street mind you) every night.  She stops and looks across the street with longing.  It’s as if she can smell all those doggies on vacation and is jealous. I keep telling Rick that she wants to go on vacation like them.  She knows there are animals there, I know she knows.  But you cannot hear barking etc.  She just knows.  It amazes me every single night.

Recently I bought a Buddha statue at Lowes.  It’s about 12 inches tall.  I placed it next to my front door.  Upon walking Chloe back into the house right after purchasing it..she stopped and barked at the Buddha like crazy.  She thought it was real perhaps. I explained to her that Buddha is good and will keep us safe, etc.  Two nights ago upon returning to the front door she stopped, looked at Buddha and rubbed her back against it in the same fashion she has rubbed against dead animals trying to resuscitate them.  She’s smart….”

To tell the truth about the incident last week…I think I just feel highly sensitive because I’m highly protective about Chloe.  She loves me madly and I know she’s pure of heart.

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Please go to Tod’s blog and check out an excerpt to his latest novel.  It’s only $6.99 and somehow that feels like shoplifting to me…but it’s legal. I read the excerpt and now I’m mentally jumping around the room wanting more. If you’re new to Tod…good luck not becoming addicted to his blog.

According to amazon we will have to wait an entire month.

I have a friend who I will refer to for this blog post as Dee.  Dee and I have worked together at the University for several years.  Dee is going back to Phoenix to be closer to her family.  Yesterday was her last day.  She and I and another co-worker decided to go out to lunch and since we were close to my new house I offered to give her a tour before she moves away forever.

I have to provide a piece of information about Dee.  She is a black woman.  This is not who she is for me but rather a simple fact.  

Upon entering my house, Chloe freaked out and barked at her.  Because that’s what Chloe does with anyone that is not Rick, Keith or I.  She’s very territorial and overly protective of me. 

We walked around the house and she said a few kind things.  She then stated, “This is great for you and Rick but for my family of 5 we could never afford a house in St Petersburg.”  This is not true.  I have a friend who has 4 kids and a family of 6 who owns a home in St Petersburg and is in the same economic stratus as Dee.  (why do people convince themselves they cannot do something simply because they have not ever achieved it as of yet?)

Then when we left the house and went back to the car where another co-worker K was, (he’s Puerto Rican and decided not to come into my house, gave no excuse), Dee stated, “Kristy needs to bring more black people to her house because her dog is racist and doesn’t like me or else she needs to let that dog look into the mirror so she can see that she’s black too!”

When she said this I laughed and stated the obvious (at least to me) “Chloe doesn’t like anyone who isn’t Rick, me or Keith”.  As it sunk in….I didn’t find this exchange to be funny.  I have been analyzing this and over analyzing this exchange and the course of events ever since.  Was she simply trying to be funny? 

I don’t consider myself racist at all.  I do not judge people for ethnic, cultural or other reasons.  And yet this exchange seemed like the reverse of racism. Is this some odd technique or something whereby a black person says something derogatory to point out that I am not one of them?  I’m just not feeling it or understanding it.

The other co-worker who remained in the car has a black g.f. He didn’t say anything to her commentary.    He didn’t laugh.  He didn’t comment.  I could not see his face because he was in the back of my car.  He had no response however.

Upon returning to the workplace after going to a nice Thai restaurant and having lunch together, she stated to all within hearing “Kristy’s dog is racist!” Because we were at work I simply walked away.

The notion that a dog is racist is ridicules.  The notion that this comment is funny is too.

I have to ask myself…did this woman see what I have achieved in the form of my new home and attribute it to my being white?

I cannot speak for her…I can only say that I will never understand using any attribute about yourself as an excuse for why you are not successful. I don’t even know if that’s what this is about for her.  I can only speculate.  I know many people of other ethnicity’s that are far more successful than I.  Indian doctors, Chinese dentist….perhaps my being white means I can’t practice medicine now?  

I know someone will tell me I do not understand the plight of the black man….and I don’t.  I just can’t quite think that this girl’s comments yesterday were funny or appropriate.  Is this the part whereby if you’re black it’s ok to call each other the n word or make reference to race relations to white people and yet if you are white you are supposed to simply stand by and show tolerance?

I wanted to say something but also wanted to be respectful.  I was honestly at a loss as to how to properly say it without turning the entire thing into a racial line in the sand.  I’m not racist….and neither is my dog for crying out loud.

I commented about this to Rick and he simply stated, “That’s crap…you’d never go to her house and point out that she had a white dog…because you would never even think on those terms.”

This begs the question…do black people make everything a color issue because they deal with racism so much that they actually end up making it more of an issue?

Trust that I’m simply trying to understand….something that I don’t.