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the one about how my other half met Kris Radish

It seems that most of the time when I blog it has something to do with being inspired to document something that Rick does, will do, or has done. Today beats all other inspirations. Today he called me to tell me that he moved an author today. And that he told said author that I was a bookcrazy nut. That I had so many books he wasn’t even sure how many because it would take forever to count. This conversation came about because the person he was moving had a lot of books too I think. (As I try through excitement to recall don’t hold me to the accuracy of this re-telling!) The author he moved? Kris Radish

When he called he told me “I got you an autographed book today from an author I moved and met in person”. Now there are two very cool things about this.

ONE – An author gracious enough to humour the guy moving her stuff and offer a free signed book to his wife. I love kind authors who are personable about their art.

TWO – MY husband, who is seriously quite shy, opened his mouth and spoke about my love of reading and books to a customer. It’s so nice to be truly known by your partner in life and be so cared for that he would speak up on your absent behalf.

The book she gave me… Image Hosted by ImageShack.us

I haven’t read any of Ms. Radish’s books to date, but I did read an excerpt of SEARCHING FOR PARADISE IN PARKER, PA by her back in early January through the St. Pete Beach Library FICTION BOOK CLUB that sends me emails every day for a week with a short excerpt each day from that same book. And THAT book has been on my list of “to be reads”.

 

She just got bumped up since the minute I get home tonight after work I’m going to crack open her signed and gifted book and begin reading. I have two things I’d like to say to Ms. Radish, who was so kind to my shy and sweet husband. Thank you so much for your kindness. And….welcome to a wonderful place to live!!

And last but never least, thank you honey….you’re the best!!

Filed under : books, Rick
By shishnit
On February 25, 2009
At 9:53 pm
Comments : 3
 
 

living life with less doesn’t mean that the joy is less

Check my entry out. I just had to have my say.  The premise behind that blog is fantastic.  

Filed under : economy
By shishnit
On February 24, 2009
At 7:49 pm
Comments : 0
 
 

How to sleep alone in a King-size bed (book review)

I read a lot of books. I rarely ever take the time to review them on amazon. I had to review this one because I felt cheated out of my $11 I spent at Target for this one. What a great premise. A woman’s memoir about her journey with divorce. I read a few good reviews and I wonder if those people aren’t her friends. When I went through my own divorce, I didn’t care what anyone else thought about me or the situation. I also didn’t lay in bed crying for week’s on end. I know that everyone’s experience with divorce is different, heck I know a woman who remarried her ex-husband. (and for the record, I will never, but I do now get it)  I get that every situation is different. But this woman just does not come across as authentic whatsoever. She comes across as selfish and stupid.  The sad part is…really….what a great great cover on this novel. I love the cover photo so much I could put it on my wall….if I could just find it without her novel title on it…that is.Image Hosted by ImageShack.us

“I’ve been divorced. This is the novel this writer wants her children to one day read, this is not the novel that speaks to reality.  This author is clueless about “real” life.  She abhors the idea of getting a job at Microsoft because somehow she’s “better than that”.  She also seems to have very little anger by the time she writes this novel.  I’ve been divorced for 5 years now and I can still recall the anger.  Her anger is gone and thereby it’s not even in this novel. 
Her quick wrap up at the end is also ridiculas.  Seriously?  You date someone new and you never speak about the difficulties for anyone but yourself?  It’s as if she got tired of writing and wanted to money so she called it quits.
This book makes me want to write about the realitys of divorce, and more so the reality of the aftermath, the years that you work on making it work for your children, the resurfacing of the anger just when you think it’s gone.  She tries to make her ex out to be some kind of “good” guy for her kidssake.  Your husband gambles away all your money and leaves you in debt and you don’t want a job at Microsoft?
Stupid twit writing this book….or perhaps someone not in touch with reality.  Maybe the husband left because she wasn’t paying attention to reality and he sought comfort in the game’s he played.  Just a thought. I would leave her too. 
This book is irritating and I’m someone who has been there.  Give me a break with all the cute little antedotes in the book.  If you didn’t write it why steal it to enhance your book.
Save your money, buy some highly rated “coping with divorce” books.  This one is not reality.
I think her last name might be Frey. The female storyteller. 
And NO I don’t hate men.  And no I don’t hate my ex.  And yes I have a job.  I’m not an angry reviewer, I’m just being honest.  This memoir read like a cheap bubblegum machine diamond ring.  FAKE FAKE FAKE.
 

Filed under : books, divorce
By shishnit
On February 23, 2009
At 6:38 pm
Comments : 0
 
 

what non-students do on a Sunday

Now that I’m in midair between my undergraduate program and my Masters program, I am largely bored.  I should have tons of time to blog, but it seems I’ve forgotten how to waste time effectively.  I have been reading quite a few books and you’d think I’d want to somehow document this time, but again, no such desire.

I spend my time taking long baths, reading, thinking about all the things I should be doing with all this free time, and just as I’ve always know about myself, when I have too much time on my hands, I grow bored, lethargic and un-useful.  

I have spent the majority of today doing nothing but

Washing dishes

Wondered what happened to Akismet??

Eating rice pudding

Washing comforter

Cleaning spilled mess off of living room floor (mess spilled so long ago, it was dried up in a corner where I didn’t see it!)

Read other people’s blogs

Downloaded some new songs on the Ipod

Took a long hot bath

Read two chapters in bath

Got dressed

Realized we have lost $7k in value on our house in a mere 10 months!! (zillow.com I both love and HATE you!!)

Told Rick about the $ 7K loss

Even though I said to myself, “myself, lets not tell him”

Myself did not listen

Realize that that’s the same $7k the government just gave us

We’re still even?

Shopped realtor.com and saw house I fell in love with for NOW $25k less than what we paid, with a fireplace

Put slipper socks on my cold feet

Lamented no fireplace

Wasted a lot of time

Checked student website for my last grade to post (sprinkle this one throughout my entire day!)

Think about stupid rule that says must be in “GR” status (graduated) to begin Masters program

Managed to blog

Will eat some dinner soon

The End

Since I have nothing else to stress about at the moment, aside from 7k loss, must get last grade posted to begin rush status to be in gr status so I can start spending my Sunday’s studying.  I am fucked in the head because apparently I hate all this free time. 

The REAL End

Filed under : college, grades, house, economy
By shishnit
On February 22, 2009
At 10:35 pm
Comments : 0
 
 

Relationship Meme

I got this Relationship meme from Dooce but decided to do it after reading it elsewhere.  Shoot me.  And really..is a link required?  I thought not.

What are your middle names?

Mine is Lynn, Rick’s is Lee (just like my Dad Richard Lee, only technically my Dad’s given name was Ricky Lee…it fits because Rick’s family all call him Ricky..I’m the only one that doesn’t)

How long have you been together?

6 years as of Jan 09.  Married 3 years as of 11/26/08.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?

hahahahahaha….our first meeting was our first date!!

Who asked whom out?


Neither.  We were set up together.  Me by a friend who was friends with his brother’s girlfriend, him by her and his brother (who is now my stepbrother….and he’s no longer with the girl who did the setting up, she’s been to jail and has a known crack problem now….sad)

How old are each of you?

I am 38 and he is 40.

Whose siblings do you see the most?

His, because they all mostly live in Florida and the ones that don’t travel here often.  My entire family is in Pennsylvania and I hate it there and they hate me.

Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?

Trust.  Not because of what I have done or he has done, but because of the massive shit that other’s before “us” did to each of us.

Did you go to the same school?

Nope.

Are you from the same home town?

Nope.  Rick is from Illinois and I am from Pennsylvania.  We met in Florida.

Who is smarter?

Of course I am.  But he would agree.  Unless we’re talking about Math or the VCR or any electronic device in our house..then he is certainly the genius and I’m the bus rider.

Who is the most sensitive?

He is.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?

Cheap dive type places, we both have a secret crush on Denny’s and we love to go out to eat after most places have closed. 

Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?

Hahahha…travel?  Orlando….and that is sad.

Who has the craziest exes?

He has no ex’s, my ex isn’t crazy, he’s just stupid.

Who has the worst temper?

This is a complete and utter tie.  We both have nasty tempers.

Who does the cooking?

Rick does the majority of the cooking. I only really love to cook when I’m making a new recipe or something I love to eat,  and when I have time to dick around in the kitchen without stress.

Who is the neat-freak?

I am.  Rick could live in a pigpen, so long as I wanted to play in the mud with him.  Oddly, he is the better maid. He can scrub some tile like no one’s business.

Who is more stubborn?

Again a tie.  We’re both stubborn and have terrible tempers.  This is why we get a long so well. We bicker a lot and while this happens a lot…I think it’s made us stronger.

Who hogs the bed?

He does.  He must always be on my side and his.

Who wakes up earlier?

He does.  Even if he doesn’t have to be anywhere.  I’m a night owl and prefer to stay up late and sleep in late.

Where was your first date?
His brother’s garage…followed by Burger King and a run in with the man who would soon be my ex-husband.  Rick scored a bicycle that night and I just scored.

Who is more jealous?
We both tend to have some jealousy, but I would say him more so than me.

How long did it take to get serious?
Uh….7 hours…yah about 7 hours.

Who eats more?
Rick does.  He eats a ton of junk food, loves hamburgers, and all fast food.  He also loves cheese on his cheese and cheese on everything else too.  Cheese makes cardboard yummy.

Who does the laundry?
I do.  He’s too lazy.  And I’m too picky.  There’s a right way and a wrong way to fold clothes and the right way is while they are hot and you can smooth out any eventual wrinkles.  I DO NOT IRON.  I also prefer to do my own laundry.  I’m picky.  Some things go in cold, others get hand washed.  How’s he supposed to know these details?

Who’s better with the computer?
I am better using a computer, Rick is better at fixing, configuring, plugging in and setting up the computer.  He’s the hardware guy and I’m the software girl.

Who drives when you are together?
Rick.  And he does not prefer my backseat (or sideseat) commentary.  He’s a driver for a living… don’t you know? He can also back up any vehicle like a pro in a matter of seconds.  I don’t do that.  Why should I? 

Top ten things most people would not know about Rick

1.    He rips his pants off the minute he gets home.  He can’t stand pants.


2.    He puts peanut butter on his waffles.


3.    He watches American Idol like a fiend.


4.    He’s astoundingly good at playing Poker and will actually read books about Poker. (I broke him into reading)


5.    He’s extremely close to his family (this one fact makes me insanely insane for him)


6.    He wears funny t-shirts and has no shame about what they say. I buy them for him and he’s never refused to wear one.  THEY ARE FUNNY!


7.    He loves Chloe.  Sometimes I think more than I do.  But he denies this, so don’t ask.


8.    He drinks coffee with cream.  Rarely ever uses sugar.  And never measures the coffee when he’s making it. (BLUCK! I insist that measurement with the fancy starbucks coffee spoon is necessary so when I make coffee he always says “this measured coffee is soooo good”.)


9.    He pulls his socks off right after his pants.  I pick all of his socks up off the floor.  But is there anything sexier than a man in jeans with no socks or shirt on?  I think not.


10. He makes the best breakfast ever.  He got me addicted to biscuits and gravy.


11. (yes 11…bonus!!) He only sends text messages because of me, that is he’s kind enough to reply. ;-)
 

Filed under : love and marriage, Rick, meme
By shishnit
On February 20, 2009
At 2:31 am
Comments : 0