Oh gee…Â
As someone who’s divorced (and remarried) dealing with step parent issues….god bless these 8 children.Â
May, 2009
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the reality is…we didn’t see that one coming….(yah right!)
May 13, 2009 by shishnit
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craptacular floors and marriages
May 12, 2009 by shishnit
I know this entry is going to garner a lot of haters and hatred but I’m going to write it anyways. There are a lot of things I have deemed unbloggable lately (the child, the ex, the situation there, work, etc. etc.) and this is very bloggable because they put it out there.
Recently Rick and I embarked on a bathroom remodel san’s true construction etc. However, we did not rip out the less than desirable vanity because I feared that the tile would be different under it or that I wouldn’t be thrilled with the impending costs associated with really fixing it the right way. After all my blog earns me no money and Rick and I are very much in the middle class of this country when it comes to income bracket. I accept this, I’m very ok with this. However, I was unwilling to rip out the vanity and embark on further expense at the moment because the vanity was new, just not my ideal vanity/sink model. Also, it’s small. Uber small. And I worried I’d never find something small enough to fit properly.
However, Dooce recently remodeled her bathroom. And it’s atrocious. Seriously and utterly atrocious.  WHY WHY WHY would you choose to install a new vanity over tile that does not match. Why not rip up the entire tile floor in the bathroom and do it the proper way? Can’t find matching tile…then reinstall a new tile floor through out. And if your husband can’t or won’t do it….for the love of god..use all that blogger income and hire someone to come and do it. IT would have been a one or two day job. Cough up the money and stop being so stupid. OR how about this…don’t show the entire world your fancy new bathroom just to embarrass your hick self. OR how about this….show your new bathroom and avoid the half assed floor in the photographs. Fake it until you can fix it…..or better yet….just don’t blog about it. I don’t understand how you can afford designer wallpaper but can’t fix the floor properly? Is Jon too busy to retile…too busy doing what? He has no job to report to. (much like Gosselin…wait for it…..its coming)
Rick is not a contractor for a living. Nor is he a construction worker. I realize his limitations and I’m a-ok with this. But more importantly, I’m not about to rip apart a room in my house and spend money putting it back together to only look like worse crap than it did to start with. Nor am I ever going to bitch him out publically for not being perfect..because guess what..neither am I. Get a grip Heather…..treat your husband with some respect or hire a contractor..eh?
I have begun to liken Jon Armstrong with Jon Gosselin. Two men married to the powerhouse pain in the ass personality type women. I’m all for strong women but those that constantly belittle or debunk their man’s self worth really urk me.  There is nothing to be gained from this behavior.
Ohhhh I know it’s not nice to admit that someone in the public eye urks you but hey…if you don’t want my money to pay your electricity bill or provide your children with their clothing in any form or fashion…..then that’s fine. I won’t speak up. But when you plaster your entire life out there for public consumption….you’re free game in my mind. Just as I find Joel Gosselins constant whiney crying irritating I find Heather’s constant demoralizing of her husband to be irritating too.
I’ve been a mother for a long long time….funny I never found the need to exploit my family in order to pay the electricity bill and heck all my flooring is cohesive. Wow..imagine that. Gosh..sometimes I hate Mommy bloggers and Mommy’s on TV too. It really didn’t surprise me to hear that Jon Gosselin was perhaps cheating on Kate or that she might be cheating on him.  What a mess they made of their lives….all in the pursuit of the almighty dollar for diapers.
p.s. Orla Keily from Target….really doesn’t distract me from the obvious floor. Just like Jon Gosselin’s denial doesn’t distract me from their marital problems.
p.s.s. My husband did an amazing job on the bathroom, no one died, and no one disrespected one another just to upgrade a room in the house. It can be done. I love you Rick…thanks for not being a Jon…but if you were…I’d never treat you like crap. I promise.
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I don’t know what I want to be when I grow up
May 7, 2009 by shishnit
I’ve never known. I started out working at places that would hire me with no skills and then when my son was 5 and I moved with the ex to Florida I decided enough was enough and I started to seek out jobs that paid better and provided me with opportunities to gain training and skills. I taught myself all of the Microsoft Office software programs by reading “for dummies†books and I upgraded with each and every job I took. I worked quite a few jobs between 1998 and 2004 when I got my current job. I worked for HSN (yes the television store!), worked for 2 electronic distributors, one crazy lady who sold assisted living reports to people, a collection agency and a few strange other jobs during that time prior to the job I currently have. I learned one major thing from all of those jobs and that one thing is and was that every person who makes the real money had a college degree. I also noticed that the people that had worked their way up over the course of 20 years were desperate to keep their jobs and seemed to not have the skills necessary to compete in the workforce any longer because their skills were deemed only valuable to the company they worked for 20 years.
In light of the recession and my having just completed my undergraduate degree, I have been considering long and hard “Where do I go from here?â€Â I enrolled in my Masters degree and slugged through the first few weeks of class wondering if I made the right choice. I have been looking at the job postings with curiosity and I imagine that most recent college graduates would and are doing the same thing. It’s dismal.
So while emotionally and mentally I am ready for bigger fish to fry, I am trying to re-grease the frying pan I’m currently in because I am grateful to be in any pan so to speak.
The biggest frustration to me is that I didn’t obtain a degree that is specific to one job title. I can do a lot of things with my degree; however this also means that I can’t simply do a job search for “Elementary Teacher†or “Podiatrist†etc. It means that I spend a lot of time looking at all sorts of jobs and try to figure out exactly what all the verbiage really equates to. It’s insane the way some job ads are written. I imagine some of them are really file clerks but the job duties make it out to sound like rocket science before the ad is over.
All of this just to reiterate that this recession sucks but yet I’m thankful that I spent the last 4 years getting a degree instead of taking expensive trips to Mexico on boats or spending hundreds on custom made frames for pictures to be hung on the living room wall. (That might not make sense to you…but it makes plenty to me!!)
When I was 18 I wanted to go become a phlebotomist or become a courtroom stenographer. I still see both of those jobs as valid and dream worthy. I just can’t see myself pulling blood for $12/hr or getting carpal tunnel in front of some fat judge day after day. I see both of those jobs as working with the public and probably no fun at all. However, I can easily close my eyes and see myself doing either of them happily. Yah insane right?
But really the bottom line is this. I search through job listings and try to place myself within those jobs. I saw one today for a Credit Analyst for a company I always admired…but I was a Credit Analyst without a degree and sure this job probably pays a great deal more because of the “degree required†in the job description but really, do I want to do something I’ve already done before only for more money? Errr…wait, isn’t that why I went to college?
Oh by now perhaps you see my real conundrum. I still have no earthly fucking idea what I want to be when I grow up. And so …I trudge along in my 2nd class gaining my Masters degree for the sole purpose of being the ONLY person in my family to have ever achieved that goal.
Oh …my priorities? Yes, they are fucked. By the way I now find that I work for someone that doesn’t have a degree and makes far more than I do. She even asked me recently if I thought she should have a degree. I smiled and said kindly “I work for a University, have done so for the last nearly 5 years, I think EVERYONE should have a degree, don’t you?â€Â  I got a blank stare.
*sigh* It would have been so much easier to go to a phlebotomist program or …uh…been a stenographer. Did you always know what you wanted to do? Are you doing it? If so, do you love doing it? If not, do you wish you were doing it?
p.s. I do really love my job….I just never planned to be doing this..so it makes me quiver sometimes.
Edited to add:
Average Phlebotomist Salary: $30000.
Stenographers are now referred to as Court Reporters, Wage and salary court reporters had median annual earnings of $45,610 in May 2006. The middle 50 percent earned between $33,160 and $61,530.
Perhaps I want to be a court reporter? hmmm
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$25 later…my office/library….love this room.
May 4, 2009 by shishnit
Yes….I bought that desk. I had many fantasies and ideas about how to refinish it etc. Then she arrived in my house and I found that I loved her “as is” just as that guy does in Bridget Jones Diary.
Desk $25
Chair $20 Homegoods
Happyface Mug 75 cents /garage sale
I bought the big pencil on etsy.
Bought the “READ” letters from urban outfitters.
Bought these cute little cups to spell out my name (in case I go senile soon and need help) from etsy too.
Added the cute (and cheap at 4.99 from Homegoods) “WRITE” to my Paul (Westerberg) wall. It was brown along the bottom, I sprayed it black. Bought the “read books” in scrabble letters from an etsy shop too. (all etsy links available on my Flickr).
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A
May 2, 2009 by shishnit
Oh my gosh how I struggled. I spent hours upon hours agonizing over gap analysis and benchmarking and learning all the new tables I had to learn. I told Rick I was not going to get the same grades in my Masters program. I told myself not to be dissapointed and to just struggle through and put forth more effort than I had in the past.
Oh…Rick, when I told you I wasn’t going to get A’s …oh how I lied. Can you say “My wife got an A in her first masters class!â€â€¦oh I know you can. Now say it loud because I did and I’m so excited and you’re busy at work not answering your cellphone so I just had to blog about it.
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