After many tears, a long conversation with my Aunt in PA and a few other conversations with my best girlfriend in Florida….I decided not to go meet this grandma at 10 a.m. I’m not into negotiating with a stranger. I gave her no permission to get involved with my child. I’m also not into traveling to a hotel to be on the receiving end of god knows what. Nothing good could come of that. Also, I should mention that in the past week not once has my own child spoke to me directly. It’s about respect. I can’t begin to help him until he begins to show some respect to me. All this woman did was rescue them with no expecations from or of them.
His father did not go and sent me a txt advising the following “Can’t make the ten o’clock. I will meet them later today.”
I don’t have answers. I second guess everything I’m doing. But I’m not going to be anyone’s fool either. Those day’s are over. I threw the ball back into me ex-husband’s court so to speak. He MUST step up and be a parent or pay the price for dropping the ball. You cannot simply dismiss your children when times are tough, which is what his Dad always trys to do.
Sometimes accountability must be forced upon him.