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  1. Protected: xanax? give ME some I say….*sigh*

    March 18, 2010 by shishnit

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  2. Blogging about Keith going private

    March 17, 2010 by shishnit

    I have decided to blog privately about my son’s struggles. I need to blog because it’s keeping me sane, but would you believe there are some clowns that believe laughing at a child’s struggles is a sport?  Well they exist.  Email me at poetical girl @ hotmail. com and if I know you I will give you the password to the posts about Keith.

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  3. improvement

    March 9, 2010 by shishnit

    I spoke to Keith last night.  He’s regularly attending an alternative high school.  He attends for a little over 4 hours every day.  Classes begin at 12 noon each day.  There is no recess, no lunch, just online learning activities driven by actual teaching staff on site.  There are around 300 students there compared to the 3,000 at his previous high school.  They also encourage the kids to success instead of telling them they are wasting the staff’s time, etc.  Pinellas Park is really not the suburban dream some people think.  (pahlease…)

    Keith likes his new school. 

    This is a huge success.

    Keith is following his nightly curfew his father set.

    Another step in the right direction.

    Keith is not belligerent with me.  He was largely in the past belligerent with his father only.  He’s no longer having that issue with his father either.   He and I had a nice talk.  I told him I was proud of his taking the first initial steps in the right direction.  And I am proud of him.  I do miss him.  I haven’t seen him in almost over a month now.  We will likely change that very soon.

    I believe every parent has some regret’s, once they realize things or learn new things etc.  But the relationship that I personally have with my son appears largely intact, he’s doing well, he’s safe now.

    I’m relieved.  I’m guarded.  But I really am proud that he learned some lessons while out there trying to be all grown up too soon. 

    Sometimes when you make a selfless decision, other’s don’t know all the details of your life, and so all they can see is their slanted viewpoints.  It kills me how people who have young children think they know what will happen when those children become teenagers.  No parent has that crystal ball.  Unfortunately.  I have learned to live in the now.  To take each day as it comes.  For now, Keith is doing quite well.

     

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  4. kidlet update

    March 8, 2010 by shishnit

    Keith is attending school regularly again and he is following rules again.  I haven’t talked with him because his cellphone service has been pulled as punishment.  I also must call my ex about ten times before he calls back with any information or updates. 

    Having said that, I have blogged .5% of the information regarding my son because he’s nearly his own person now.  I haven’t talked about much of the things that have taken place over the last 7 years because it has been my finding that there’s always someone who thinks they have answers and they don’t.  I’m a firm believer that divorce will mess up your children regardless of how you deal with it, how it goes down or why it goes down, the children will likely run into issues later. 

    My son was absolutely fine…for the longest time…and then he wasn’t.  It’s so complex its impossible to blog 100% of the issue here.  I refuse to even do that to my son.  He’s not a bad person, he’s struggling..he’s a teenager and he is having difficulty finding direction.  I’ve also been largely pushed out by his father so that makes it nearly impossible for me to know all the details because my ex refuses to speak openly. He refuses to speak at all if his wife’s in the room.  His wife refuses to speak to me at all.  Lack of communication is a leading cause of the issues if you ask me.  You can’t have 4 people raising a kid who don’t communicate with one another. 

    Whatever problems Keith has are largely due to the fact that I haven’t had really any say in his day to day activities, who his friends are, what the rules are, or how he will have to have accountability.  Those things were all decided by his father.  And so now this is what the end result is.  I was told over and over again that Keith has “another mother now”.  My ex’s famous words.  And that mother sucks the big one if you ask me. 

    But then again no one does.

    Then again no one who judges asks the right questions.  And no one that judges really cares anyways.

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  5. another update

    February 26, 2010 by shishnit

    Keith went to court this morning.  He was released into his father’s care.  He is (last I heard) at home with his father.  He was informed by the judge that if he doesn’t get it together and attend school and listen and ends up in that court again, he will be released to the foster care system until he is 18 years old.

    The ball is now in his court.  However, I am relieved that he is safe.  Thanks for your concern and well wishes.  This has been a long long road and I feel better having let go of carrying the burden alone.  Much thanks to my husband Rick for standing firm beside me. 

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