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  1. don’t you dare disappear cause I love you honey!!!

    March 3, 2009 by shishnit

    The other night Rick and I were watching TV and while watching we saw a story about a guy who just up and split from his family.  I don’t recall the details of the story because I was in half paying attention, half reading a book mode.  Upon hearing the insane story Rick stated, “What would you do if I just up and disappeared like that?”  To which I shrugged and said, “It’s happened to me before!”  He quickly apologized when he realized where my mind had gone.Now his statement was in no way an indication that he plans to split, nor was it his intention to reference my ex-husband splitting on me with my kid in tow when said kid was 8. (8 years has passed…wow!) 

    For those of you not in the know, my ex told me he was going to Checkers for burgers once when Keith was 8 and he never returned from his trip to pick up dinner.  He split from Florida and went and hung out in New York with his ex-girlfriend/new love toy of that moment) while I was left in the dark.  IE: They disappeared without a trace.  It would be over 48 hours before I even knew they were alive rather than my feared dead.

    I bring all this up to simply state that I have personally come a long way since those days.  When Rick asked the question my honest reaction wasn’t one of “OMG what would I do?” but rather one of “hmmm shit happens and you cope with the shit and life goes on”.  I have overcome so very much that I generally fear nothing anymore.  I’ve lost parents, I’ve lost a marriage (although I laugh to even call that a marriage)…I’ve lost other things and people along the way.  Life goes on.  I am not saying I have avoided the pain of those events but rather that I have full faith that if Rick disappeared, while unimaginable to me now, life would go on.

    There’s a strange sense of personal peace that comes with acceptance.  If something happens, you can fight it or go with it and allow it to change you for the better.  I’ve been changed for the better.

    Now to address the not so Zen side of this.  I used to worry about how I would manage things if my ex died.  Now I worry about how I will ever be this happy again if Rick were to pass on.  I would manage, but I would never ever be this deeply happy again. 

    Happy as in joyful.  Rick makes me joyful.  He and I have something good.  We have worked hard to overcome things, we have forgiven each other of things, and we have built something so good.  So….even though I’ve had a husband disappear on me before…the notion of Rick doing so…ghastly.  Because I actually am in love.  I actually am endlessly full of joy because of this man.  So…technically been there before..mentally and emotionally..never have been there before.  Life always goes on….but boy…don’t let me ever find out how I would manage without that boy. 

    I know this entry is all over the road, and that is because while I now know that I am a strong independent woman and I would manage to overcome anything, I also know that I am in love with my husband and I’d never ever be the same without Rick.

    I wouldn’t have anyone to laugh with.  I wouldn’t have anyone to fight with.  I wouldn’t have anyone to share oxygen with. I wouldn’t have two arms to hug me. I wouldn’t have so much that I have been lucky enough to find.  I can’t even fathom it.  I also wouldn’t have anyone to sideseat drive for. 

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  2. the one about how my other half met Kris Radish

    February 25, 2009 by shishnit

    It seems that most of the time when I blog it has something to do with being inspired to document something that Rick does, will do, or has done. Today beats all other inspirations. Today he called me to tell me that he moved an author today. And that he told said author that I was a bookcrazy nut. That I had so many books he wasn’t even sure how many because it would take forever to count. This conversation came about because the person he was moving had a lot of books too I think. (As I try through excitement to recall don’t hold me to the accuracy of this re-telling!) The author he moved? Kris Radish

    When he called he told me “I got you an autographed book today from an author I moved and met in person”. Now there are two very cool things about this.

    ONE – An author gracious enough to humour the guy moving her stuff and offer a free signed book to his wife. I love kind authors who are personable about their art.

    TWO – MY husband, who is seriously quite shy, opened his mouth and spoke about my love of reading and books to a customer. It’s so nice to be truly known by your partner in life and be so cared for that he would speak up on your absent behalf.

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    I haven’t read any of Ms. Radish’s books to date, but I did read an excerpt of SEARCHING FOR PARADISE IN PARKER, PA by her back in early January through the St. Pete Beach Library FICTION BOOK CLUB that sends me emails every day for a week with a short excerpt each day from that same book. And THAT book has been on my list of “to be reads”.

     

    She just got bumped up since the minute I get home tonight after work I’m going to crack open her signed and gifted book and begin reading. I have two things I’d like to say to Ms. Radish, who was so kind to my shy and sweet husband. Thank you so much for your kindness. And….welcome to a wonderful place to live!!

    And last but never least, thank you honey….you’re the best!!

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  3. Relationship Meme

    February 20, 2009 by shishnit

    I got this Relationship meme from Dooce but decided to do it after reading it elsewhere.  Shoot me.  And really..is a link required?  I thought not.

    What are your middle names?

    Mine is Lynn, Rick’s is Lee (just like my Dad Richard Lee, only technically my Dad’s given name was Ricky Lee…it fits because Rick’s family all call him Ricky..I’m the only one that doesn’t)

    How long have you been together?

    6 years as of Jan 09.  Married 3 years as of 11/26/08.

    How long did you know each other before you started dating?

    hahahahahaha….our first meeting was our first date!!

    Who asked whom out?


    Neither.  We were set up together.  Me by a friend who was friends with his brother’s girlfriend, him by her and his brother (who is now my stepbrother….and he’s no longer with the girl who did the setting up, she’s been to jail and has a known crack problem now….sad)

    How old are each of you?

    I am 38 and he is 40.

    Whose siblings do you see the most?

    His, because they all mostly live in Florida and the ones that don’t travel here often.  My entire family is in Pennsylvania and I hate it there and they hate me.

    Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?

    Trust.  Not because of what I have done or he has done, but because of the massive shit that other’s before “us” did to each of us.

    Did you go to the same school?

    Nope.

    Are you from the same home town?

    Nope.  Rick is from Illinois and I am from Pennsylvania.  We met in Florida.

    Who is smarter?

    Of course I am.  But he would agree.  Unless we’re talking about Math or the VCR or any electronic device in our house..then he is certainly the genius and I’m the bus rider.

    Who is the most sensitive?

    He is.

    Where do you eat out most as a couple?

    Cheap dive type places, we both have a secret crush on Denny’s and we love to go out to eat after most places have closed. 

    Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?

    Hahahha…travel?  Orlando….and that is sad.

    Who has the craziest exes?

    He has no ex’s, my ex isn’t crazy, he’s just stupid.

    Who has the worst temper?

    This is a complete and utter tie.  We both have nasty tempers.

    Who does the cooking?

    Rick does the majority of the cooking. I only really love to cook when I’m making a new recipe or something I love to eat,  and when I have time to dick around in the kitchen without stress.

    Who is the neat-freak?

    I am.  Rick could live in a pigpen, so long as I wanted to play in the mud with him.  Oddly, he is the better maid. He can scrub some tile like no one’s business.

    Who is more stubborn?

    Again a tie.  We’re both stubborn and have terrible tempers.  This is why we get a long so well. We bicker a lot and while this happens a lot…I think it’s made us stronger.

    Who hogs the bed?

    He does.  He must always be on my side and his.

    Who wakes up earlier?

    He does.  Even if he doesn’t have to be anywhere.  I’m a night owl and prefer to stay up late and sleep in late.

    Where was your first date?
    His brother’s garage…followed by Burger King and a run in with the man who would soon be my ex-husband.  Rick scored a bicycle that night and I just scored.

    Who is more jealous?
    We both tend to have some jealousy, but I would say him more so than me.

    How long did it take to get serious?
    Uh….7 hours…yah about 7 hours.

    Who eats more?
    Rick does.  He eats a ton of junk food, loves hamburgers, and all fast food.  He also loves cheese on his cheese and cheese on everything else too.  Cheese makes cardboard yummy.

    Who does the laundry?
    I do.  He’s too lazy.  And I’m too picky.  There’s a right way and a wrong way to fold clothes and the right way is while they are hot and you can smooth out any eventual wrinkles.  I DO NOT IRON.  I also prefer to do my own laundry.  I’m picky.  Some things go in cold, others get hand washed.  How’s he supposed to know these details?

    Who’s better with the computer?
    I am better using a computer, Rick is better at fixing, configuring, plugging in and setting up the computer.  He’s the hardware guy and I’m the software girl.

    Who drives when you are together?
    Rick.  And he does not prefer my backseat (or sideseat) commentary.  He’s a driver for a living… don’t you know? He can also back up any vehicle like a pro in a matter of seconds.  I don’t do that.  Why should I? 

    Top ten things most people would not know about Rick

    1.    He rips his pants off the minute he gets home.  He can’t stand pants.


    2.    He puts peanut butter on his waffles.


    3.    He watches American Idol like a fiend.


    4.    He’s astoundingly good at playing Poker and will actually read books about Poker. (I broke him into reading)


    5.    He’s extremely close to his family (this one fact makes me insanely insane for him)


    6.    He wears funny t-shirts and has no shame about what they say. I buy them for him and he’s never refused to wear one.  THEY ARE FUNNY!


    7.    He loves Chloe.  Sometimes I think more than I do.  But he denies this, so don’t ask.


    8.    He drinks coffee with cream.  Rarely ever uses sugar.  And never measures the coffee when he’s making it. (BLUCK! I insist that measurement with the fancy starbucks coffee spoon is necessary so when I make coffee he always says “this measured coffee is soooo good”.)


    9.    He pulls his socks off right after his pants.  I pick all of his socks up off the floor.  But is there anything sexier than a man in jeans with no socks or shirt on?  I think not.


    10. He makes the best breakfast ever.  He got me addicted to biscuits and gravy.


    11. (yes 11…bonus!!) He only sends text messages because of me, that is he’s kind enough to reply. ;-)
     

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  4. love

    January 31, 2009 by shishnit

    After what had to be the worst day of his life in years…..he came home and is now making me dinner.

    Yah….I suck. 

    Or is it just that he’s just THAT wonderful?

    I’ve felt for the last few weeks that every time I came here to blog I have just wanted to gush to the masses about my husband.  And I have allowed myself to do that somewhat.  But trust that I don’t deserve him and I can’t think of anyone who does.

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  5. I can’t blog about it….

    January 30, 2009 by shishnit

    but I must.  Something bad happened to Rick today.  Suffice it to say that he’s alive and well and for that I am so grateful.  I realize over and over that he’s truly such a sweet guy.  He’s “goodness” personified.  Yes, he does things that aggravate me because I happen to be easily aggravatable…but it always comes down to this…he’s just so damn good in the “person” department that it makes my heart ache. (Good persons should not suffer bad events!!)

    And when bad things happen to him…it hurts me so much.

    He’s ok….things will be ok….but it sucks.  When these things happen I want to scream, “Why do these things have to happen to him??????????” rather than some assclown that “deserves” it?

    I used to be total shit at handling stress…and this thing that happened is uber stressful, more so for him than for me…but for the both of us since we are neither singular anymore, but instead we are entirely a “we”.

    Upon hearing his bad news about this thing that happened I let out a huge sigh of relief that he was simply alive and calling me.  He’ll be ok, I’ll be ok…”we”‘ll be ok.  But it still sucks.

    p.s.  It’s equally wonderful to be married to someone that is all the things he is.  It makes it so easy for me to be proud of my husband, to love my husband, and to feel so lucky even in light of shitty events.  The words “Nothing matters more than you being ok…the rest can be worked out” were so easy to say that it really does amaze me.  HE is all that matters because he can’t be replaced.

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